Someone once said
the greatest discovery always starts as a question and most often a stupid one.
Maybe this is what prompts me to ask myself a couple of stupid questions on friendship. Some of these questions are:
What does it mean to have a friend?
Is male friendship that important?
Aren't a circle of friends just a group of friends that pass blunts and talk about women?... lmao 😃
I never really understood the importance of male friendship or what the whole relationship entails... lmao, you're probably wondering why a boy that doesn't know jacksh*t about friendship writing a piece on one. Well, it's a pretty simple and funny story that can be summarized in the word;
"heartbreak 💔"
Heartbreak has a way of leading you to realize the most valuable things in your life and around you. When as a newly "babe-less" man with no woman to keep my company, I turned to the solitary of people (friends) I never knew I had. The more time I spend with my friends the more I begin to realize a few things.
- These guys are hilarious and funny as hell (crazy right? but when life is kicking your butt, the best solution is to find a reason to laugh your ass out... These guys always give that reason).
- These guys are smarter than I give them credit for.
- These men have the potential to influence my life in the great potential.
So as the wise man that I am😉, I decided to stick with them throughout the year (2021) and see how far they can influence this not so appealing life of mine.
Influence == "positive" ? Hurray🎉🎈🎈🥂 : 😔
So did my circle of friends influence my life in a positive way? well... lol, they did. Although I am now getting less sleep because of them 🙄. Below is a list of some things I could accomplish and help my friends provide to help me reach my goals.
- They helped me find peace and solitude in the comfort of my own company. With their help, I realized that I was capable of enjoying the littlest stuff on my own.
They Influenced my taste in music (good music). Taysport and Olumide made me experience some great music this year, ranging from Freya ridings "lost without you" recommended by Taysport to the numerous UK artist jams Olumide always play when I visit him. One reason I decided to pay for premium Spotify.
They helped me improve my Grades. Olumide is always ready to come through for me. Bo will literally send a scanned copy of his jotters for me to read.
They helped me improve my skills and helped me work on projects I didn't know I was capable of.
Goldin was always on the go about my skill, always ready to drop his work and help me solve my bug. lmao😂 in fact, below is a picture of him doing just that early this morning
They helped me make money. It is important to mention that one of the jobs I currently hold was one of them that referred me to the role. Through these guys, I got to work on a 3 weeks contract job that paid me twice my monthly income. These guys showed me the beauty "chop make I chop".
They influence my relationship life. My friends helped me find joy in my own company and space. This made me make better choices when it comes to women. It helped me decide if or who should come to my space and life. This made me realize that I can get 99% of what I craved in a relationship without the actual relationship and the hurts that come with it 🤷♂️.
Honourable mentions are Ayomikun that won't let me waste my life, gave me a placement and always ask me what I wanna be earning (employ me sir😂), Okoko that sent me food, fixed my bugs, and helped me apply for GSOC, Emaf that won't let me go hungry, always sending money for upkeep, Mofiyin that didn't allow me to go jobless by helping me out with a phone... Brooo these men are my Brothers
If you know me, you will know I am a sucker for corny and cute sh*t... That's probably why I am adding these lyrics of "Safe with me" by Ayoola. I love the message the lyrics passed.
Put your drinks up in the air
All of my guys I got you
Whenever you need me
I'll be there
Through the highs and the lows
We're together you gotta know
I see the laughter, I see the pain
All your secrets are safe with me
Safe with meeee
It seems this article is already getting considerably long😂... I love how the year turned out with this circle of my friends, and I can't wait to see how far we can push each other and achieve next year.
I started this article by asking some pretty stupid questions... why don't I end this piece by answering one of those stupid questions.
What does it mean to have a friend? Idk what it means to have friends. But I know what it means to have friends that are brothers
Tschüss, Auf Wiedersehen ✌️